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July 6, 2022July 6, 2022 by Libby

Bringing Awareness to Food Rules

If you have been trying to diet for any length of time or experience any degree of disordered eating, you likely have a number of food rules that you follow, whether you are conscious of them or not. Creating food rules is an anxiety and fear-driven way to try and “manage” one’s eating. If you follow your food rules (however arbitrary they may be), you are doing “well'” with your eating and your anxiety is minimal. If you break any of the food rules, you “messed up,” ate “badly,” “cheated,” and/or experience guilt and anxiety.

Examples of food rules include the following:

Only eating dessert once a week on your “cheat day”
Excluding entire food groups
Only eating what you measured/planned even if you are still hungry
Refusing to eat what other people prepare (out of anxiety / not being able to control or know for sure what’s in the food)
Only eating ____ calories per day and obsessively tracking this
Only consuming dessert if you plan to “work it off” later
Only eating at set times, even when you are hungry at other times

Of course, it is helpful to have some structure to our eating. I generally eat at similar times each day and have other intuitive, broad patterns to my eating. I would consider this normal, and also helpful so that we are not constantly “starting from scratch” completely wondering how and what and when we are going to eat each day. In addition, some people follow certain “rules” for medical/health reasons that are not rooted in fear or anxiety – for example, a type 1 diabetic counting her carbs, or someone mindfully avoiding less sugar right before bed because she knows she is prone to not being able to sleep otherwise.

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May 17, 2022May 17, 2022 by Libby

Moving from Restriction & Obsession to Freedom with Food

We have all likely noticed from experience that when something we want or need is in short supply, or even perceived to be in short supply, we can become anxious or obsessive in our thinking about the thing that is limited (or perceived to be limited). This can apply to many areas of our lives, whether it is money, time, relationships, food, clothing, or other material items.

I know for me, I find myself struggling with this a lot in the area of time. I tend to too often live in this perpetual “emergency, fight-or-flight state” of feeling like I don’t have enough time, even though there is generally plenty of time to do the things that I want or at least need to do. When I feel like time is in short supply I end up feeling anxious and obsessive about time. This leads to unpleasant side effects like jam-packing my days, running through the day at too fast a pace, and a lack of margin, rest, and presence. When I was studying for my RD exam, I perceived and experienced such scarcity of time (whether that was self-induced or not is another question…) that even when I had a bit of time to rest on the weekends it was hard for me to fully rest and relax because I was anxiously and obsessively worrying about the lack of adequate time to rest!

This type of thinking is what can be thought of as a scarcity mindset. A scarcity mindset is when you are experiencing or perceiving a lack of something, leading to obsessive thinking about the thing that is limited (in actuality or in your perception). While time is one of the biggest ways I experience this now, I certainly used to experience this a lot with FOOD and still can from time to time (albeit in more normal and at times, unavoidable ways).

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January 5, 2022January 4, 2022 by Libby

What Foods Do You Consider Healthy?

Hello! I hope you enjoyed the holiday season and were able to spend time with friends and family. I always find the week after New Year’s a bit challenging in terms of getting back into normal rhythms and routines and no longer having the Christmas season to look forward to. Anyone else??

The holiday season got me thinking about wanting to write a brief post on “healthy foods.” What comes to mind for you when you think of healthy foods or eating healthy?

I tend to hear more comments at the holidays about foods being healthy or unhealthy, good or bad. It seems when people make these sort of black-and-white comments, the general consensus I notice is that they are referring to a food being (1) relatively low in calories (such as a salad automatically being healthier than a burger) or (2) relatively nutrient-dense (such as a carrot automatically being healthier than pretzels). People may feel guilty after eating a food they deem bad and may feel the need to compensate in some way (for example, through restriction at the next meal or increased exercise).

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October 27, 2021November 10, 2021 by Libby

Eating Disorder or Disordered Eating?

Happy Wednesday! I hope you are having a nice week so far. I have been enjoying the fall colors lately and getting outside when I can, especially when it is sunny! I just finished my five-week-long food service management rotation at one of the dining halls at U of M. I enjoy food service and learning more about managing food operations – it was especially interesting/crazy with all of the supply chain and staffing issues going on with COVID! Not fun for the staff when they are trying to feed and forecast menus for 2000 people multiple times every day… This week I am doing a one week clinical rotation with the maternal and infant health unit at Michigan Medicine. The one constant of this internship is that it is always changing and quickly on to something new!

Today I’m going to be covering a few concepts…

- - What is an eating disorder?
  - What is disordered eating?
  - What does it look like to be a healthy eater?,

I often talk about both eating disorders and disordered eating, so I think it’s important to take some time to explain what each means. It’s necessary to make this distinction because one can have a disordered relationship with food without having a full-blown eating disorder, and both are important to address for optimal health and well-being.

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September 29, 2021September 24, 2021 by Libby

Rediscover a Joy-Based Approach to Eating

Most of us probably grew up as kids with what I would consider a “joy-based approach to eating.” What I mean by this is that most of our food decisions were made with little to no thought, were primarily chosen based on what would satisfy us, and despite all of this our nutritional needs were largely if not fully met. If you were like me when you were younger, you didn’t know in detail what protein, fat, and carbohydrate are, you didn’t feel bad for eating “too much ice cream,” and you probably ate 3 relatively balanced meals and at least 2-3 snacks each day. How did eating, something so fundamental to sustaining human life, become so complicated for so many of us as we got older? And are we any better off for it?

The opposite of a joy-based approach to eating is what I would consider a fear-based approach to eating. A fear-based approach to eating is one that is rooted in guilt, fear, and shame, and leads to obsession and chaos. Unfortunately, this is what many of us develop in varying degrees as teenagers or adults. Living in a culture in which we are constantly inundated with messages about what is beautiful (i.e., one body size – very thin), what and what not to eat, and what new diet or exercise regimen to try can leave many of us feeling confused and obsessive when it comes to food and nutrition. We may start to become very black and white about food, labeling some foods “safe” or “healthy,” and other foods “off-limits” or “bad.” We may develop rigid food rules and shame ourselves when we break them. To pay the penance for our “mistakes” with eating, we may resort to dieting, shaming ourselves, obsessively exercising, or other unhealthy measures to remove the guilt we feel and the fear of gaining weight. I don’t think I’m exaggerating when I say that the way some of us interact with food is like a religion – I can say that because I have been there! Rigid rules, efforts to remove guilt and essentially internally cleanse oneself, and the reality that it is never enough no matter our best efforts. If any of this resonates with you, know that you are not alone.

While I could go on about what it is like to live in a fear-based approach to food, I will save that for another time. Today I want to focus more on two facets of a joy-based approach to eating: